DON'T GO FOR OMUGWO WITHOUT YOUR HUSBAND, PASTOR TELLS WOMEN

A Nigerian marriage counsellor, Pastor Bisi Adewale, has cautioned women against spending extended periods abroad caring for grandchildren, warning that long absences can strain marriages and leave elderly husbands vulnerable.

Adewale, who is the founder of Family Booster Ministry International and the College of Marital Success, issued the warning in a video posted on his Facebook page on Monday.

“Another thing I h@te is for a woman to escape to Canada to go and do Omugwo for three years. Very bad. Very, very bad. Now a 75-year-old man is now going all around buying boli, buying groundnut, at his age. It is not good,” Pastor Bisi Adewale said. 

Adewale explained that he had made a personal agreement with his wife that they would always travel together, regardless of where their children lived. “I told my wife, I said the children may move abroad. They can do everything. If you are going for Omugwo anywhere, we are going together. And I told my children, if your house is small, I have money. I will get a hotel. I will stay nearby,” he said.

The counsellor used medical situations to highlight the importance of spouses staying close to each other at different stages of life. “When you see a four-year-old boy with his doctor, what do you think the doctor will ask? Where is your mother? When you see an 84-year-old man before his doctor, what do you think the doctor will ask? Where is your wife?” he said.

Adewale also warned men who mistreat their wives that such actions could negatively affect their future, stressing that a wife’s role evolves as couples grow older.

“When a man is young, his wife is his mistress. When a man grows to 50 or 60, suddenly the wife becomes his mother. That is why when you are b+ating your wife when you are young, you are d+stroying your old age,” he said.

“When a man is 80 or 90, suddenly the wife is no more a mistress, s+x may not even take place again. She has now become your nurse. But that is the time we need each other most.”